It’s no secret that the most wonderful lovers and mistresses are people who are not always endowed with any special beauty or physical characteristics. It happens that you look at someone whose sex life is the stuff of legends, and you just wonder - is this what they found in the person?
Well, nothing special! However, the fact remains: real sex gurus are rarely good-looking enough to justify their image at first glance. So how do unremarkable people manage to become such lovers and mistresses that no one is able to forget a sexual relationship with them?
Don't take sex too seriously
Of course, sex is an important part of our lives. It improves health, improves sleep, and improves mood. But if you take intimacy too seriously—say, as a healthy healing procedure where everything has to be perfect and sterile—then you completely lose spontaneity.
The element of play leaves the bed. You become too demanding of yourself and your partner. And as a result, instead of pleasure and benefit, you get dissatisfaction and frustration.
Shannon Chavez
psychologist and sex therapist
There is no need to be a perfectionist in sex. Turn off your head and think of it as a game whose only purpose is to bring and have fun.
For those who are experiencing this for the first time
Every person has a moment in their youth when they have sex for the first time. Both the guy and the girl may worry that they haven’t had time to learn anything and won’t be able to satisfy their partner. Much also depends on sex education, family relationships and views on sex. As a result, some young people look forward to their first experience. And some fear him like fire. We have prepared some tips for those who want their first sex to leave only pleasant impressions.
Psychological preparation
Nothing should be done without mutual desire and attraction of partners to each other. Both the guy and the girl should feel ready to have sex. Also, psychological preparation should include an understanding of sex not as a shameful process, but as a pleasant lovemaking experience for both.
Selecting a location
For the first time, you need to have sex in a place where you are guaranteed that no one will confuse or interfere with you. It is best if it is a comfortable and romantically decorated bedroom. The house must have a bathroom so that all safety, comfort and hygiene rules can be observed.
Appearance and hygiene
Before their first time, everyone in a couple should make sure that they look good and are pleasant to their partner. Before sex you must:
- take a shower,
- put on fresh and clean underwear,
- use deodorant,
- brush your teeth and freshen your breath.
You can also use an unobtrusive perfume that your partner likes.
Nothing should be done without the mutual desire and attraction of partners
It is also very important to follow all the rules of hygiene after sex: take a shower and put on clean clothes.
Don't overeat before intimacy
You shouldn’t overeat before sex so that you still have energy and the desire to please each other. It is quite possible to have something delicious to eat as part of a romantic dinner. But don't overfill your stomach. If one of the partners has eaten too much, it may be difficult for him to concentrate on the sensations during intimacy. And some even experience indigestion due to excessive anxiety. It is clear that this does not contribute to a romantic mood.
Will it hurt
Many girls fear that their first intimacy with a man will definitely be uncomfortable. In fact, pain does not always accompany the first sexual intercourse. A man is able to please even the most inexperienced girl if he does not forget about foreplay. It is enough to excite her and act gradually, using a sufficient amount of lubricant. The girl’s task in this case is to relax as much as possible and trust her partner. And then pain can be avoided.
Will there be an orgasm?
Quite often, during the first sex, young people face two problems:
- The guy ejaculates too quickly.
- Lack of orgasm in a girl.
In fact, both are absolutely normal. And in order not to worry, both partners should simply improve their knowledge in matters of psychology and physiology. As a rule, both the guy and the girl are very worried at the first intimacy. And so one cums too quickly, and the other cannot truly get pleasure. Over time, when young people gain a little experience in sex, the problem will be solved.
Important little things
A few important little things that are relevant for the first time.
- Firstly, always think about the issue of contraception in advance. It is better if both partners think about it than neither of them.
- Secondly, don't do anything that you or your partner are not ready for.
- Thirdly, a glass of champagne will help you relax and get into a romantic mood. But don't drink too much - alcohol can only ruin everything.
- And also don’t worry about doing something wrong. An understanding partner who is truly in love with you will always support you and tell you how to correct the situation.
And, of course, the first time should be between people who are sincerely attracted to each other. Sex for the sake of sex at a young age can be traumatic. But the first intimacy with someone with whom a person is really in love is a pleasant memory for life.
Atmosphere
When having sex, people should feel passion and tenderness for each other. For this there must be a favorable environment, without strangers. And both partners must be psychologically prepared for the first intimacy. A romantic dinner, light twilight, candles (but remember safety!) and aromatic oils will also contribute to the release of sexual energy. You can start with a massage or watching a light movie to get into the mood for intimacy.
When having sex, people should feel passion and tenderness
Turn off smartphones
Do you take your smartphone turned on into the bedroom? The likelihood that you will spend an hour before bed with a device in your hands is twice as high as the chances of having a romantic conversation with your partner lying next to you. These are the results of the study No More Pillow Talk: Phones In Bed Taking A Toll On Relationships, Sex Lives, conducted among Americans.
25% of respondents admitted that the smartphone screen (not the face of their loved one) is the last thing they see before going to bed. 55% understand that too much interaction with a gadget reduces the quality of their intimate life. And 35% note: sex has suffered greatly due to the “third wheel” - the smartphone.
Conclusion? If you can’t (or have the willpower) to turn off your mobile phone until the morning, then at least put it in “Do Not Disturb” mode. And send good night wishes to all your online friends in advance.
Love fashion
Deep necklines and mini skirts have long been no longer attributes of sexuality. Men prefer light romantic dresses that slightly hug the figure, or even business suits and shirts, so that when looking at a girl, they can fantasize, and not see all parts of the body in the open; they need a little secret, a highlight. It is more interesting for him to conquer a girl who is a mystery, independent and versatile, than to simply take what runs into his hands. A man is a hunter by nature and you need to be able to surprise him with new images, hobbies and, of course, your beauty.
Look into each other's eyes
At least from time to time. Eye contact enhances arousal and helps establish a deeper emotional connection. If you are still uncomfortable looking into each other's eyes for a long time during sex, exchange short glances, holding them for at least a couple of seconds THE EYES HAVE IT... THE KEY TO POWERFUL INTIMACY?. And over time, develop this ability to feel real intimacy.
Write messages
Of course, now there is no longer that romance when we wrote long love letters and novels to each other, but in modern phones there are SMS messages. Write more, more often, because what we write to each other from our fantasies is not always easy to say in words. Give your loved ones more time, do not be afraid to say in a message what you cannot convey in life, every emotion addressed to a person dear to you is priceless.
Missionary position: varieties, advantages and disadvantages
Experiment
In stable couples, sex quickly loses its edge. Within a year, Women tend to lose interest in sex after just one year into a relationship, and there's a reason why calm family relationships, interest in intimate life decreases among 34% of women and 15% of men. Partners who know how to voice their needs get more pleasure in bed. And not only are they not afraid, but they also strive to experiment. To banish routine from the bedroom, try:
- Sex toys.
- New poses.
- Tantric sex.
- Sex in unusual places.
- Role-playing games.
Learn to start right
Excitement of partners sets the tone for further sexual relationships. Clothes that reveal intimate parts of the female body, tight-fitting, tight-fitting, high heels, beautiful manicure, well-groomed appearance and hairstyle play a certain role in attracting male attention. Some men like girls in sportswear or even in work uniforms, there are a lot of options and taste preferences, it’s up to you to choose the look. Don’t forget about going to the cinema, cafes, restaurants, this is useful for diversifying your relationship and having good time spent together.
Scissors
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How to do it
Partners lie on their sides. The man spreads his legs, and the woman seems to clasp his upper leg with hers.
pros
Clitoral stimulation for women. For both - an opportunity to try an unusual position that does not require special gymnastic skills.
Minuses
There is little physical contact and agility for a man.
Variation 1. Scissors + doggy style
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How to do it
The woman lies in the “Scissors” position, the man kneels.
pros
Deeper penetration and more control for the partner, as well as other benefits of doggy while maintaining eye contact.
Improvements
A man can additionally stimulate his partner’s clitoris with his fingers or penis, periodically removing it from the vagina.
Variation 2. Scissors + reverse cowgirl
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How to do it
The man lies on his back and bends one leg at the knee. The woman sits in reverse cowgirl position, wrapping her body around her partner's bent leg.
pros
Double stimulation for the partner, for the partner - all the bonuses of the “Woman on top” position.
Online education programs
Services, applications and platforms make the life of a tutor much easier. Thanks to them, you can not only make a video call with a student, build a graph, show something on a virtual board, but even teach drawing or playing chess.
Platform programs for online distance learning and video conferencing
Video conferencing allows the teacher to fully communicate with several students at once and receive instant feedback. To organize a video call, all participants in the process install the program on their computer or register in an online service. Before the lesson, the teacher creates a “room” and invites students to it using a link.
Zoom.
Previously, it was mainly members of work teams working remotely who communicated on Zoom. Now this tool is actively used even for conducting exams.
Zoom Features:
- Communication by text, video and audio.
- File sharing.
- Screen demonstration, program menu.
With the free plan, you can host a conference for 100 people for up to 40 minutes. But for tutors, the $149 paid plan will probably be more suitable. It has no restrictions on call duration, and also has 1 GB of cloud memory and the ability to stream on social networks.
Skype.
This service is most often used for individual tutoring and teaching in small groups. The duration of the video call is no longer than 4 hours in a row and 10 hours a day. The program allows you to share files, share the screen and chat.
Skype is demanding on the Internet connection: for good picture and sound quality you need 1.5–2 Mbit/s.
WhatsApp.
In WhatsApp you can video chat, create group chats, and transfer files. This is a free application, but it is literally becoming outdated before our eyes: the functionality has not been expanded for a long time. In addition, one of the main advantages of WhatsApp - the ability to use it on mobile devices - is also its main disadvantage.
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If the smartphone is connected to the mobile Internet - 3G or LTE, at some point problems with sound and picture may appear. Especially if the student or teacher does not sit in one place, but moves around. Indeed, in this case, the signal level changes, and the connection becomes unstable. Ideally, all participants in the call should connect via Wi-Fi.
Discord.
Initially, this messenger was used by gamers to communicate during the game, but with the beginning of universal remote work, teachers began to actively use it. Discord allows you to host video conferences, share files, and chat.
Discord Features:
- Video calls for up to 50 participants.
- Voice and regular chats.
- Screen broadcast.
A big plus of Discord: it allows you to adjust the volume of each speaker. It is also possible to record lessons so that students can listen back to them.
Microsoft Teams.
Integrates with Office 365 and supports chat and video calls with over 250 participants. Microsoft Teams can be tested for free for a month, and the cheapest plan costs $5.
Google Meet.
Ideal for team work on a project. Google Meet is linked to Gmail and calendar, so scheduling meetings is quite convenient. Big advantage: If you already have a Google account, you don't need to download and sign up for a separate app. The main disadvantage: in the free version of the application, only 10 people can communicate.
These are the most popular video conferencing services with fairly simple functionality. If you are looking for something more specific, take a closer look at these programs:
- Educational platform GetCourse. The vast majority of online courses are created on it. The platform has a lot of capabilities - from hosting webinars to creating tests.
- Cisco Webex Meetings is a corporate webinar program that is only available over a VPN.
- Jitsi Meet service for conferences for up to 100 people with the ability to access the student’s desktop.
Programs for creating screencasts—videos that record what is happening on your computer screen—may also come in handy. Among the most famous: the YouTube creative studio, the free Free Screen Video Recorder program, and the iSpring Suite e-course creation program. Screencasts can make a teacher's life a lot easier, because it is much easier to record some technical things in advance and give the student access to the video, than to waste time repeating the same thing. In addition, with their help you can:
- analyze the topic of the lesson with examples;
- write down the solution to the example.
Online virtual whiteboards
Virtual interactive whiteboards are also called mind mapping services. They are often used by remote workers, but they can also come in handy when working as an online teacher. Such boards allow you to draw, write texts, visually show diagrams and figures, upload photos and video clips, and even browse websites together. Many of the virtual whiteboards can be used for free, although with certain restrictions on time and functionality.
All boards open in a browser, so you don’t have to download the application to your computer.
Miro.
This is an “endless” online whiteboard, which is quite convenient for online teaching. Available functions include templates and mind maps. The board allows you to plan a project, create large diagrams, diagrams and strategies. Miro does not have its own video and audio communication, but it can be combined with Zoom or other video conferencing programs.
Miro is available in English, Spanish, French and German, which can be very useful for language teachers.
The free version supports 3 boards, unlimited users, all basic features and templates. Paid plans start at $8 per month and include an unlimited number of boards, saving change history, and additional options.
Padlet.
Bright and friendly. It is convenient to make portfolios and progress reports, and collect information together.
For teachers, the school plan is best: it allows you to create your own columns, canvases, and maps. But if in doubt, you can test any of the tariffs for free for 30 days.
IDroo.
Allows you to draw, write text, draw simple geometric shapes and enter formulas, upload photos and documents. All these elements can be moved around the field. The online whiteboard works on smartphones, computers and tablets.
To use it for free, you just need to register. With the basic plan, you only have access to the basic tools and only five boards. The standard version costs 9 euros per month and gives access to all functionality, and also allows you to create up to 50 boards on which all the information from past lessons will be saved.
Jamboard.
Interactive whiteboard from Google. The work here is done on slides - in one project you can make up to 20 of them. Several types of brushes and colors are available. You can attach a sticker to the space on the board and add a photo. There is a virtual pointer that leaves a gradually disappearing mark on the slides. Jamboard is free and available on smartphones and computers.
Whiteboard Fox.
A simple board for creating simple mind maps that supports collaboration mode. The interface is in English, but it is quite easy to understand. The advanced version costs $7 per month.
Sketchpad.
And this board is best suited for art teachers. On the one hand, there are much fewer functions than in professional programs like Photoshop. On the other hand, much more than other boards: there is a pen, a brush, a pencil, a pen, a felt-tip pen, a stamp, and text. Images can be saved and shared.
Sketchpad is available online and as an application in Russian.
Twiddle.
Allows you to view sites, documents and images in shared mode. You can draw on it with any colors, adjust the line thickness and font size.
To use the board, you do not have to register or subscribe to the newsletter. The free version allows meetings of up to 20 minutes with up to ten students, but does not support voice communication and does not allow you to save a recording of the lesson. Paid plans start at $14 per month.
Conceptboard.
Best suited for team design projects. But it can also be used for learning - especially when it comes to drawing. The board allows you to exchange files and conduct correspondence in Russian. True, its interface is in English.
The free version allows you to add up to 100 objects to the board and invite up to 50 students to the lesson. Audio, video and screen sharing are available with a paid plan, prices starting at $6 per month.
Programs for constructing graphs and stereometric figures
Tutors in exact sciences cannot do without specialized programs. To make the lessons clear, charting services will come in handy.
Desmos.
Initially, I only knew how to draw function graphs. But over time, more possibilities became available, and a simple “graphing calculator” grew into a tool for teaching mathematics. Now you can leave tasks in it and monitor the correctness of their completion, and keep statistics of successfully solved examples. If there are several students, it is convenient to monitor the progress of each - there is a special “Activities” section for this. You can also create animated pictures, take screenshots, draw functions, and build stereometric figures. Moreover, you can use the tool completely free of charge.
Mathway.
A mathematical problem solver who knows basic algebra and trigonometry, calculus and statistics. And he can give short answers or a step-by-step solution to any problem, and can build graphs. Moreover, the platform not only solves the examples itself, but teaches you how to do it correctly. However, many teachers note that you need to buy a premium plan outright to have access to all the features.
GeoGebra.
Very popular among science tutors due to its wide functionality. The program can:
- build two-dimensional and three-dimensional geometric figures;
- build stereometric figures;
- draw graphs of functions;
- solve equations and arithmetic problems.
GeoGebra is fully translated into Russian and can be installed on any gadget.
Services for conducting tests online
Control is an important stage of distance learning. Services for creating tests online will help you carry it out. Let's talk about the most popular ones.
Online Test Pad.
Free service in Russian for creating tests, surveys, crosswords. Allows you to choose from 17 question types, including fill-in-the-blank and interactive dictation. Based on the answers in the Online Test Pad, you can collect statistics in the form of a table.
ClassMarker.
The service allows you to create up to 100 tests per month for free in most languages. A paid plan for $20 per month increases this figure to 400, and also gives the opportunity to send results to participants by email and collect statistics. You can also purchase a package for a certain number of tests.
Master Test.
A free online platform where you can download the test and take it without an Internet connection. A large library of ready-made tests is available. Master Test has a very simple interface and a minimum of features. Available answer options: single, multiple, word, number, matching.
Let's test.
Online test maker adapted for smartphones. Useful functions: selecting one or more answers, text answer, setting a sequence. There is a trial period, but after it ends you can use the service for 2,500 rubles per month. The minimum tariff includes 100 testing sessions and viewing results.
Platforms for learning to play chess
Learn to play chess online? Easily! The main thing is to choose a suitable platform, regularly train with the student and motivate him to train in his free time. Let's talk about the three most popular platforms for learning to play chess.
Chess.com.
A gaming site that is convenient to use for training. On Chess.com, a student can play with you or with other users. You can communicate directly in the chat, but for voice communication you will have to connect third-party resources.
Lichess.org.
This is a free chess service. You can play with a friend, the computer or a random opponent. The site constantly hosts tournaments and arenas, so your student will not get bored.
ChessBase.
Educational and news service for learning to play chess. You can play online or in a downloaded application. The site contains many teaching materials, but they are all in English.
Sitting
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How to do it
A man sits on a bed or on a chair. The woman sits on top.
pros
The position is good for long sex and for female orgasm, since the partner can control the process. Additional advantages are the proximity of the partners, the comfort of the position itself and the ability to change the pace and angle of penetration.
Minuses
In the version with a chair, the position may be uncomfortable for a short partner.
Variation 1. Cradle
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How to do it
Both partners sit on the bed, the woman wraps her legs around the man’s body.
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pros
Even more sensuality and relaxation, partners can rock together, slowly reaching orgasm.
Minuses
Lack of depth and dynamics.
Variation 2. Woman lying down
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How to do it
Another intermediate option between the missionary position and doggy style. This time the woman lies on her back and the man sits on his knees.
pros
Both partners can control the speed and depth of penetration. A man can additionally caress his partner’s breasts and clitoris.
Variation 3. Sitting + standing
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How to do it
There are almost no standing positions in the selection, because they, as a rule, are not very comfortable and require increased strength from a man. But this variation simplifies the situation: a man does not need to hold a woman up; it is enough to sit her on a table or other surface suitable for his height.
pros
Deep penetration and variety that this position brings to the sexual life of partners.
Minuses
With all the modifications, the position is still not comfortable enough. If your partner doesn't like to stand during sex, it won't be suitable.
Content
- 1 Why sex?
- 2 Brief historical background
- 3 Disadvantages of sex
- 4 How to want to have sex
- 5 Kama
- 6 1001 questions about THIS 6.1 Prepare the chosen place for doing THIS
- 6.2 Select an object to do This 6.2.1 Option A - You are a girl (GOST 666-32)
- 6.2.2 Option B - You are a man (GOST 667-32)
- 6.2.3 Option B - You are Moscow (GOST 666-666)
- 6.2.4 Option D - You are the Chief (GOST 637-24)
- 6.2.5 Option D - You are an Administrator (GOST 256-1024)
- 9.1 Sex for approval and/or self-affirmation.
Boost your cognitive abilities
Despite the fact that this point does not come first, it is, in truth, key. By developing your memory, you become able to remember more important information, remember forgotten information, and begin to demonstrate your abilities in creative thinking (these are related things). When you learn to be attentive and focused, you will stop being distracted and will be able to study much more than before.
You'll be able to notice things you haven't seen before, pick up on the intonation of your interlocutor, understand the taste of food, and read faster. This is all your support, which will help you learn to learn and do it faster (if this is your goal).
You probably know people who grasp everything on the fly, and at the same time you cannot call them particularly well-read and intelligent. These people, from birth or from childhood, have developed cognitive skills. They are able to notice, remember and realize more than others. They remember something faster; they can immediately come up with an unusual association for any word. And yes, their most important advantage is that they learn easier than other people. True, many of them do not use this gift. What is not hard-earned rarely has value. But if you improve your cognitive abilities, it will come at a cost to you.
The beautiful thing about cognitive abilities is that increasing one enhances another. Memory training alone can do wonders for your brain.
Recommendations for men
For dessert, I have prepared for you gender-specific recommendations for self-improvement. They will help highlight your strengths and achieve harmony. Let's start with men's.
Develop physically
Strength training and cardio are a must. They can be diluted with gaming and extreme sports, sports tourism, yoga. If you haven't done any of this before, start gradually.
Learn martial arts
I highlighted martial arts as a separate item, since this is training not so much for the body as for the spirit. They develop courage, patience, endurance - qualities so necessary for men.
Train your masculine character
In addition to the three listed, there are at least a dozen more truly masculine character traits. Diplomacy, endurance, ability to take responsibility, dedication and others. Think about which of these are lame in you, and focus on them.
Learn to make decisions
Every day a man has to make many important decisions. The fate of other people, for example, a wife and children, depends on some of them. If situations of serious choice put you at a dead end, you need to learn to make decisions. Otherwise, one day you will hear an offensive “not a man” addressed to you.
How to move correctly
When thinking about how to move correctly during sex, you need to remember that any movements should be aimed at reducing the distance between the clitoris and the male genital organ. For example, the woman-on-top position creates the closest contact with the clitoris. In this position, the girl can use any movements that give her pleasure. And in the “missionary” position, she is limited in her movements, which is why touching the clitoris is less pronounced. The doggy style position gives a woman the opportunity to stimulate the clitoris with her hands during intercourse.
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The partner's movements do not interfere with the man. Moreover, her energy during intercourse is the best male stimulant, as well as a way to quickly achieve orgasmic sensations. A man regulates the degree of his arousal by changing the rhythm or intensity, the depth of penetration. Having stopped the forward movements, you can temporarily remove the penis by caressing the female genitals with it. Such actions control the duration of coitus.
Women need to move, because during sex they are forced to “catch up” with their partners in achieving orgasm. To speed up its onset, you can, for example, ask a man to use lateral jerks or rotations with deep penetration. It is necessary to select the most effective sensations that provide greater pleasure.
You can independently develop movement options, for example, pressure on different parts of the vagina. At the same time, female movements should be “in search” of such contact of the penis with the walls of the vagina, which gives the most intense pleasure. Sensitive areas may change depending on the position, as the length of the vagina changes depending on the position. In the position on the back with the legs spread apart, the vagina becomes longer, and when the legs are brought together, it becomes shorter.
What is self-development
Before moving directly to practice, let's figure out what self-development is.
In simple words , self-development is active work to improve yourself and your life. You can develop personal qualities, professional skills, cognitive functions, physical abilities, etc.
Why is all this needed? Our world is designed in such a way that it is impossible to reach a certain point and stay there forever. If you stop moving forward, a rollback will certainly follow.
If you don't develop, you degrade.
Imagine that you sweated in the gym for a year, ate right and finally got yourself into perfect shape. “Well, now you can relax,” you conclude and go all out. I think there is no need to continue further, the result is already clear.
The same thing happens in all other areas of life. You won't achieve success until you start investing time and effort into self-improvement.
If you are ready to eke out the life of a dull average person lying in front of the TV every evening, you can close this article. Leave the process of self-development to bright, ambitious, caring people. Just don’t be surprised later why you suddenly found yourself at the bottom, and don’t say that I didn’t warn you.
Spoons
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How to do it
A man and a woman are lying on their sides. A woman can have her back or face to her partner.
pros
An intimate and comfortable position for both, great for a short break. Also convenient for having sex during pregnancy.
Minuses
Deep penetration is unlikely.
Improvements
A man can caress his partner's clitoris with his fingers. In a position where she lies with her back to him, it is especially comfortable. And she’s also pleased.
Make your workouts comfortable
Kelly McGonigal in her book Willpower says that will is a finite resource. She recommends not wasting it, but saving it for things that really matter. In sports, this means minimizing all additional obstacles that may arise on the way to training.
If you are planning to start playing sports outside of your home, think through the logistics in advance. It should be convenient to get to the club. If you drive a car, make sure there is parking nearby. Walk - choose a club close to your home or office so as not to waste extra effort on the road.
For home workouts, organize a place in advance. Find a comfortable space in your apartment and gather the necessary equipment to make your home workouts comfortable. The less effort you need to put into starting a workout, the better.
